The Futility of Talking to the TTC

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Andy Byford says the TTC is focusing on customer service. I’m not sure I buy it.

On the Spadina streetcar yesterday, a man got on the back doors with a day pass. I didn’t see whether he showed it to the driver through the mirror, but the driver knew that he had gotten on the back and that he had a pass, so he must have done something. In any case, the driver announced that he needed to see the pass from the man who got on the back door. He made several more announcements to the effect of “We’re not moving until you show me your pass” and “I can wait all day.”

As a passenger on that streetcar – one who paid a fare, and was relying on that streetcar to get me to work in a timely manner – what was I to do?
The driver did not get up to speak to Fare Evader Man, which I’m not necessarily criticizing him for since I can understand that it might feel unsafe to do so, he just waited. You can tell me that the ultimate responsibility is that of the person who didn’t pay, but that argument relies on the assumption that the fare evader a) gives a damn, and b) is rational. What it means in practice is that it is up to other passengers (who also might feel unsafe) rather than the service provider to enforce fare evasion. That doesn’t make much sense to me.
Situations like this make passengers angry (and sometimes the situation escalates into a much bigger fight involving multiple people), makes them feel uncared for, and makes people not want to ride the TTC.

I’ve seen this happen many times before. Sometimes the person gets off, sometimes another passenger pays the fare (which once a driver refused to accept on principle), and sometimes the person actually pays. In this case, another passenger went up to Fare Evader Man and told him to show his pass. Fare Evader Man, who appeared that he was likely homeless and agitated, shouted loudly at the asking passenger, but did get up and show his pass.
So I asked the TTC on Twitter what the policy was in these situations. The answer I got was “Operators are permitted not to move the vehicle until everyone has paid the appropriate fare if this should occur.” Great.

I know the TTC has limited resources, I know our streetcars are old, and I know that drivers are expected to follow rules, which include collecting fares. I get all that. And yet, I still get screwed as a passenger when a streetcar is held up due to fare evasion.

I used Twitter to send my feedback because I have never once received a response from the TTC when I’ve written an email with a complaint (which, occasionally, has been major). I tried as best as I could to be respectful. I wasn’t trying to pick a fight – I really just wanted to express my concerns and feel like I was being listened to. But the response I got was not even a little bit helpful. It doesn’t actually take my concerns as valid, which I think they are, and I was essentially told, “Tough luck. People should just pay their fares.”
The solution to fare evasion is not that people should pay their fares. Because, as demonstrated, some people don’t pay their fares, and there will always be people who don’t pay their fares if they can do so. Does it really make sense that everyone on board is punished like a group of children? Does it make sense that I should either wait for an indeterminate amount of time, pay someone else’s fare, or take it upon myself to approach a stranger and demand they follow the rules?

There must be some other solution beyond “wait it out.” I’m not a transit expert and I won’t even try to pretend like I know the answer to this problem. But at the same time, I don’t accept that there is no solution to it. Maybe they need turnstiles at back doors that could be unlocked at times an employee is supervising rear boarding? Maybe the TTC needs enforcement officers that make spot checks so that policing fare evasion isn’t the responsibility of the driver? Maybe the drivers are given the discretion to sometimes just let things go in the interest of keeping things moving?

I wasn’t expecting the TTC Tweeter to come up with a solution today, though I would like if the TTC would explore alternative solutions to this problem. But mostly I would like the TTC, as an organization, to actually listen to customer complaints, and not act like I’m an idiot for bringing concerns forward. The TTC is apparently unveiling a passengers’ bill of rights today – a document I haven’t yet seen – but I’m not feeling especially hopeful that it will make a difference. What’s the point of a passenger bill of rights when the organization, as a whole, doesn’t seem to care about its passengers?

There must be some “better way.”

*A sidenote: The back door policy on the TTC is totally unclear. As I understand it, it is always ok on the Queen car but not on other routes – except the signs about a proof of fare route are at the back door on every streetcar. Sometimes drivers let people on the back when it is busy under the honour system (assuming they will be honest and are using a pass or transfer) and sometimes there is a supervisor checking fares. I bet people get confused and get on the back, thinking they are following the rules, only to have the streetcar driver call-them out.

How to Save $5000 on Your Wedding (on ivillage.ca)

How to Save $5000 on your wedding – ivillage.ca

According to a recent Wedding Bells survey, the average cost of a wedding in Canada, including the honeymoon, is $31,110. If that number terrifies you, you’re not alone. But with a little extra effort, you can cut the costs while adding a personal touch to your big day.

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Lizz whines about weddings: part 2

As my twitter friend, @silentvolume, said yesterday, “The only fun thing about wedding planning is the Registry Gun.” The planning process has so far been all over the place, emotionally speaking: Exciting, tedious, pleasantly surprising, stressful, infuriating. It has also been a big learning curve – mostly about myself. I thought I would like it more. I thought I would like the details more. But it’s kind of overwhelming. There probably is a person for whom wedding planning is awesome. That person likely has endless money, time, and patience. That person must also have the ability to let go – let go of the ideas, the details, the opinions and the static. That person can decide on a vision, make a decision. That person doesn’t get hung up on silly things because that person can focus on the the more important things (you know, the getting married thing). I’m truly trying to be that person. I think I have even succeeded on some fronts, but not all. I haven’t been able to let go enough.

Like with many decisions so far, I’ve realized it is really hard to only medium care.  For the venue, I thought I could live with simpler and less pretty to save money. But then it turned out I couldn’t and we went with the higher priced (but still very reasonable) venue instead. I’m confident that it was the right decision, but it took a lot of angst to make that decision.

For bridesmaid dresses, I figured I’d fall somewhere between “wear whatever you want” and “go get measured for your gown.” I had an idea but I hadn’t given much thought to how it would come together. But learning moment: finding a dress that I like, is affordable, comes in the sizes, lengths, and colours I need, and will hopefully not make my friends miserable is actually not straightforward! A big light bulb when went off and I finally realized why people buy “bridesmaid dresses” at bridal salons. Sure, they’re humiliating by only carrying samples in two sizes and colours, but it’s a one-stop shopping experience. You buy your matching dresses and move on. But by not wanting that experience, I created a whole world of stress. And the worst part is that by being uninterested/unwilling to designate the dresses as something that I am allowed to think is important, I’m feeling resentful of myself for caring.

And that statement there pretty much sums up my wedding complex.  I’ve been thinking a lot lately about this post on
“othering” on Offbeat Bride. I’ve realized recently that I’m being totally weird and self-conscious about wedding stuff. I felt the need to rebel against mainstream wedding ideals, but also the need to suppress the parts of me that are so very mainstream – because I never really feel like I fit in with mainstream femininity, I really wanted to fit in with the “opposite” of that. But as soon as I got there, I started worrying that I didn’t fit in there either! I’m realizing that I’ve been trying to convince myself that I am something I’m not. I’m not quite mainstream, but I’m more mainstream than I thought I’d be.
This is me making funny faces in a wedding dress. This is not my wedding dress.

This is me making funny faces in a wedding dress. This is not my wedding dress.

 

Take my dress, for instance. To be accurate, it’s a gown. I had no interest in a big wedding dress, but I thought it would be fun to try some on. So we went to a sample sale and I tried a bunch on that were nice, but nothing special. And then just as we were about to leave, I got talked into trying on a great big gown. As it turned out, I loved it. I truly don’t have any sort of princess fantasy, I just put on an expensive dress, made of expensive materials, and felt really good. I wanted to be looked at. Those aren’t really feelings that I’m familiar with. And both leading up to, and after my big dress experience, I felt the need to tell people that I wasn’t taking the big dress thing seriously. Otherwise they would totally judge me for being just another part of the wedding industrial complex, right? They would think I was silly. (Sometimes I feed people my flaws so they can’t point them out first. I’m working on it.)

But wedding planning has also helped me realize the things I’m sure I want. When registering for gifts yesterday, we got a lengthy sales pitch about having a “relationship with our dishes” and got firm direction about our expected roles based exclusively on gender (me: shiny, pretty, things. Women don’t care about price. him: practical. electrical. money). We walked away, both saying longer, more expletive versions of “WOW.” And we picked things we really liked, that made sense to our personalities and lives. It was actually a really nice team experience.  And in a funny way, it was helpful in reflecting on the type of wedding we were throwing, who we were throwing it for, and what kind of experience I want it to be.

So in conclusion: consider listening when people tell you to elope;) But if you’re really looking forward the actual wedding (like I am) and just not everything that goes into it, keep working on identifying your crazy-making things. Somewhere in the process, the madness might remind you of the important things

Now if someone could just tell me which bridesmaid dress to pick I’d be happy.

The Top 10 Female Newsmakers of 2012

ivillage.ca The Top 10 Newsmaking Women of 2012

ivillage.ca The Top 10 Newsmaking Women of 2012

Determining the top female news-makers of the year is tough when women made headlines for such a wide variety of things. Over at ivillage.ca, I’ve got a list of my top 10 – ranging from the political to the superficial. They may be very different women, but they’ve certainly all impacted the news in 2012.

Holiday Baking Extravaganza

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I’m not much of a cook, but I’m definitely a baker. I like that you can make a hundred different things with the same 5 ingredients. I like the precision of baking. I like the results of baking. And I like bribing my way into people’s hearts tummies with baking.  This Christmas, I’ve been pinning up a storm, and decided to try out a few different options.

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The first one I have renamed High-Fructose Corn Syrup Peanut Butter Balls, which differs a little from the original title. Everything about them sounded good, but they’re not as amazing as the internet led me to believe. They’re not particularly sophisticated tasting, but they’re not terrible – and they actually got much tastier on day 2. I left off the chocolate because I didn’t have it, but also because I couldn’t handle adding another layer of sugar.

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Heidesand: German Shortbread Cookies with Rosemary

By far, the tastiest, most interesting cookies I make. I stumbled upon them a few years ago when I was looking for a cookie that would be nice to give as a gift. It’s crunchy and buttery with a hint of lemon. But it’s the rosemary that makes these cookies special. It’s such an unexpected flavour from a cookie, and if gives this treat a nice balance.

Boxing Day Cinnamon Buns (via Sweetapolita)

Mine ended up being fairly dense because I misread the recipe and had to shorten the rising time, but delightful nonetheless. I also subbed in butter for margarine (it’s a holiday, afterall) and mixed it mostly in the Kitchen Aid. Overall, it was super easy to make and well worth it.

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Sugar Cookies and Gingerbread using Martha Stewart’s Lemon Royal Icing.

This was my first foray into royal icing and it turned out quite well. The lemon juice creates a really nice balance between the extreme sweetness of the sugar cookies, and the spice of the ginger cookies.  It took a good 24 hours to harden completely so leave enough time if packing them up to give away.

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The Best Worst Christmas Songs

Inspired by my friends over at ivillage who wrote about the worst Christmas songs , I give you the Best Worst Christmas songs. Because, let’s face it. Christmas songs aren’t good – at least not in the way you would consider any other song good.  Just like the big disgusting meal we like to eat 3 days in a row that started out wonderful and spirals into shovelling calories because they’re there, listening to Christmas songs is great at the beginning and painful by the end. But we still go back to them because they offer things beyond the music itself: nostalgia, family (good or bad), community, and socially condoned cheese. So I give you my best of the worst Christmas songs for 2012.

#1 – Dominc, The Italian Christmas Donkey
This one’s for Jessica. We discovered this one year quite accidentally. It’s a ridiculous song. I have no idea what it even means (is there an Italian Christmas story I should be made aware of?), but it makes her ecstatic when she hears it. Plus, it’s funny to make donkey noises.

#2. Last Christmas
I prefer the King Nancy version, but I’m biased. The Wham version is pretty good too. It’s sappy, and poppy, and basically the best. And I know a lot of people who despise it. *The Hilary Duff version does not qualify for this category. It is just awful. Don’t listen to it.

#3 – Carol of the Bells
Umm, because Home Alone, you guys (Every time I hear it I feel the need to run home and set up my house for battle.) It’s a bit over the top, and not really something you can sing along to if you’re not a choir boy, but I love it.

#4. Bob Dylan – Do you Hear What I Hear? and Little Dummer Boy.

In the category of so bad it’s good. All my hate for these songs washes away once the sounds of smoker voice sing them.

#5. Celine Dion – Don’t Save it All for Christmas Day
I don’t need to explain myself to you haters.

#6. Shirley Temple – I Want a Hippopotamus for Christmas

Because it is absurd