Comments for Lizz Bryce

Comment on Not Just a Look by cmkl

cmkl — Sat, 28 Apr 2012 20:49:09 +0000

Great piece. My respect for Ian Brown took a major nosedive when he wrote that thing. A defence of leering trussed up with writerly prose is still defending the undefendable.

Comment on Sushi Time! by Betty Macpherson-Veitch

Betty Macpherson-Veitch — Sun, 08 Apr 2012 19:03:26 +0000

What a great idea. I’m sorry I didn’t get to share a piece.

Betty

Comment on Sushi Time! by Leslie

Leslie — Sun, 08 Apr 2012 14:21:59 +0000

Nicely done – it came out great!

Comment on Not Just a Look by Yes, you can stop staring: How to stop, and why you should « cool beans

Yes, you can stop staring: How to stop, and why you should « cool beans — Sat, 31 Mar 2012 13:52:52 +0000

[...] have been lots of thought-provoking responses, and I thought I shouldn’t add to the pile, especially since I [...]

Comment on Not Just a Look by Liz

Liz — Tue, 27 Mar 2012 18:50:22 +0000

Brown has also spilled quite a bit of ink (in the Globe as well, though I can’t find a link) about his fondness for exotic dancers. I’m not a prude, nor do I have a problem with peeler bars,but that indicates to me that he’s more comfortable inhabiting the ‘male gaze’ then the article would indicate and that some of his purported shame might be for show.

Comment on Not Just a Look by Betty Macpherson-Veitch

Betty Macpherson-Veitch — Mon, 26 Mar 2012 19:22:46 +0000

right on Lizz.

Betty

Comment on Your Joke’s Not Funny by jenjilks

jenjilks — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 14:51:17 +0000

I have eschewed Q for other things, like local radio. Ghomeshi is not the most open-minded CBC host. The show is often puerile and trivial. Well said, Lizz.

Comment on Being Fat, Losing Weight, and Feeling Really Confused About the Emotional Consequences by Lizz

Lizz — Mon, 09 Jan 2012 14:53:01 +0000

Thanks Betty. No, it wasn’t you. Though, I also wouldn’t want those family members to feel bad either. I just wanted to sort out how I was feeling about it, and also to ask people to consider what they’re saying so it doesn’t give the impression of valuing a person higher based on their weight.

Comment on Being Fat, Losing Weight, and Feeling Really Confused About the Emotional Consequences by Betty Macpherson-Veitch

Betty Macpherson-Veitch — Mon, 09 Jan 2012 08:12:11 +0000

Hi Lizz Hope I wasn’t the relative who made you feel uncomfortable about losing all the weight. I’ve been there also. I do believe that it is how self-accepting you are of yourself that matters. I’ve had the experience of looking at pictures a few years later and thought with a lot of surprise that I looked really good back then. What really happened? So keep on doing what you do to feel good and healthy and don’t worry about how heavy you are as long as you are healthy.

Comment on Being Fat, Losing Weight, and Feeling Really Confused About the Emotional Consequences by Grumpylibrarian (@grumpylibrarian)

Grumpylibrarian (@grumpylibrarian) — Fri, 06 Jan 2012 16:09:52 +0000

This is so well done. I’ve yo-yo dieted since I was about the same age, maxing out well over 200lbs and a size 16 (looking back this wasn’t “as big” as I felt in my mind) and bottomed out around a size 2 after I stopped eating and got dumped in 2006.

The thing that struck you is what struck me: no matter how totally miserable you are, people will be BLOWN-THE-FUCK-AWAY by weight loss. I got compliments left, right and center about how fantastic I looked and didn’t I feel great and did I have any tips. My tips would have been: stop eating food, replace with pathetic undergraduate tears while watching Cruel Intentions. I was more unhappy than I have been in my entire life and no one cared because I looked “great”. There’s something so devaluing about having people say you suddenly look great as if you’d spent the previous stretch of life being incredibly ugly.

After I finished grad school I was on an upspin weight wise, topping out around last March due to my (ongoing) horrible job. I have also been a very vocal supporter and believer in FA and HAES (yes, these are difficult to accept on a personal level). [This was also my all-yoga-pants-all-the-time era] I decided to start doing exercise since in the past practicing controlled eating/counting calories has pushed me towards an obsessive and eating-disordered lifestyle. I did some dvds at home, and then a few months later, after some success, joined a gym. Over time, I felt less like I was ‘making a change’ and more like I was just living a slightly different lifestyle. And yeah, I lost about 50lbs (don’t own a scale, use a measuring tape 1x/mo).

People at work are the worst. People in my real life know that I don’t want to talk about my weight. People at work say “WOW YOU LOST A LOT OF WEIGHT” which is uncomfortable and makes me feel like they’re noticing my body instead of the work I do. It’s also hard to go on a rant about the impropriety when the person saying stuff is the boss.

[wow this is going on forever, forgive me!]

Just wanted to throw my support behind you. I started feeling genuinely happier when I started running road races, I feel empowered and really in control. Training for them makes me feel like I’m really achieving something for myself. Taking the focus off the specific pounds and moving focus to other things is really constructive.