Comments for Lizz Bryce

Comment on Your Joke’s Not Funny by jenjilks

jenjilks — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 14:51:17 +0000

I have eschewed Q for other things, like local radio. Ghomeshi is not the most open-minded CBC host. The show is often puerile and trivial. Well said, Lizz.

Comment on Being Fat, Losing Weight, and Feeling Really Confused About the Emotional Consequences by Lizz

Lizz — Mon, 09 Jan 2012 14:53:01 +0000

Thanks Betty. No, it wasn’t you. Though, I also wouldn’t want those family members to feel bad either. I just wanted to sort out how I was feeling about it, and also to ask people to consider what they’re saying so it doesn’t give the impression of valuing a person higher based on their weight.

Comment on Being Fat, Losing Weight, and Feeling Really Confused About the Emotional Consequences by Betty Macpherson-Veitch

Betty Macpherson-Veitch — Mon, 09 Jan 2012 08:12:11 +0000

Hi Lizz Hope I wasn’t the relative who made you feel uncomfortable about losing all the weight. I’ve been there also. I do believe that it is how self-accepting you are of yourself that matters. I’ve had the experience of looking at pictures a few years later and thought with a lot of surprise that I looked really good back then. What really happened? So keep on doing what you do to feel good and healthy and don’t worry about how heavy you are as long as you are healthy.

Comment on Being Fat, Losing Weight, and Feeling Really Confused About the Emotional Consequences by Grumpylibrarian (@grumpylibrarian)

Grumpylibrarian (@grumpylibrarian) — Fri, 06 Jan 2012 16:09:52 +0000

This is so well done. I’ve yo-yo dieted since I was about the same age, maxing out well over 200lbs and a size 16 (looking back this wasn’t “as big” as I felt in my mind) and bottomed out around a size 2 after I stopped eating and got dumped in 2006.

The thing that struck you is what struck me: no matter how totally miserable you are, people will be BLOWN-THE-FUCK-AWAY by weight loss. I got compliments left, right and center about how fantastic I looked and didn’t I feel great and did I have any tips. My tips would have been: stop eating food, replace with pathetic undergraduate tears while watching Cruel Intentions. I was more unhappy than I have been in my entire life and no one cared because I looked “great”. There’s something so devaluing about having people say you suddenly look great as if you’d spent the previous stretch of life being incredibly ugly.

After I finished grad school I was on an upspin weight wise, topping out around last March due to my (ongoing) horrible job. I have also been a very vocal supporter and believer in FA and HAES (yes, these are difficult to accept on a personal level). [This was also my all-yoga-pants-all-the-time era] I decided to start doing exercise since in the past practicing controlled eating/counting calories has pushed me towards an obsessive and eating-disordered lifestyle. I did some dvds at home, and then a few months later, after some success, joined a gym. Over time, I felt less like I was ‘making a change’ and more like I was just living a slightly different lifestyle. And yeah, I lost about 50lbs (don’t own a scale, use a measuring tape 1x/mo).

People at work are the worst. People in my real life know that I don’t want to talk about my weight. People at work say “WOW YOU LOST A LOT OF WEIGHT” which is uncomfortable and makes me feel like they’re noticing my body instead of the work I do. It’s also hard to go on a rant about the impropriety when the person saying stuff is the boss.

[wow this is going on forever, forgive me!]

Just wanted to throw my support behind you. I started feeling genuinely happier when I started running road races, I feel empowered and really in control. Training for them makes me feel like I’m really achieving something for myself. Taking the focus off the specific pounds and moving focus to other things is really constructive.

Comment on Being Fat, Losing Weight, and Feeling Really Confused About the Emotional Consequences by Kevo

Kevo — Fri, 06 Jan 2012 15:50:31 +0000

Did you ever come around to rational reasons why your family made a big deal about a slimmer you? I think that making a list of ten or so possibilities isn’t difficult.and could continue your internal discussion.

Comment on Fat Acceptance by Being Fat, Losing Weight, and Feeling Really Confused About the Emotional Consequences « Lizz Bryce

Fri, 06 Jan 2012 05:00:23 +0000

[...] more, I’ve really come around to the fat acceptance movement as of late. I believe that people really do come in all different sizes and we’re not [...]

Comment on Memories of 1999 by Lizz

Lizz — Thu, 22 Dec 2011 21:21:04 +0000

Don’t worry. If you show any signs of nostalgia I’ll pull out a yearbook!

Comment on Memories of 1999 by tgadsby

tgadsby — Thu, 22 Dec 2011 21:16:02 +0000

It’s been a while since I’ve read your site! Wow I do vaguely remember that protest day … I think high school was tough for everyone. We were all trying to figure things out & worrying about boys and what others thought. I remember thinking “When I’m forty I better remember how shitty high school was so I don’t look back with rose coloured glasses.” I know I won’t be going to any reunions. Facebook seems like one never-ending reunion as it is.
Great writing again, Lizz.

Comment on Dead parents and the kids they leave behind by gbryceyukon

gbryceyukon — Sat, 03 Dec 2011 06:36:18 +0000

I’ve just re-read your post on your limited memories of Mum, today on the 23rd anniversary of her death. It made tears well up up in my eyes.

As for the one memory you had that I couldn’t immediately recall, I’m going to look for a photo that would confirm it. Even without the evidence, I am confident you remember correctly.

Love, Dad

Comment on Your Joke’s Not Funny by Sarah

Sarah — Fri, 07 Oct 2011 21:51:40 +0000

Well put, Lizz.